1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:04,040 This programme contains strong language and adult themes 2 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:05,080 Wow. Previously... I love it. 3 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:07,960 ..as the retreat brought some couples closer... 4 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:09,280 I know that it's love. 5 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:10,520 I'm on the love road. 6 00:00:12,320 --> 00:00:14,200 ..it pulled others further apart. 7 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:15,480 There are personality traits 8 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:18,720 that I need in a partner that I'm not seeing. 9 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:21,880 Any kind of connection is missing at the minute for me. 10 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:24,800 She doesn't want to be with you, and she doesn't find you attractive. 11 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:25,840 Enough is enough. 12 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:30,160 The reality is, I am being mugged off. 13 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:32,520 While Julia-Ruth's candid comments... 14 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:34,600 Steven is someone definitely that I would go for. 15 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:36,480 ..triggered a backlash from the group. 16 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:37,960 It's selfishness. 17 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:40,640 It's at her expense, and it's at Divarni's expense. 18 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:42,320 And that's what hurts my heart, Julia-Ruth. 19 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:44,760 Shut up! I've had it. 20 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:46,520 I just can't do this any more. 21 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:49,440 And as Maeve battled with her struggling marriage... 22 00:00:49,480 --> 00:00:50,920 I'm sitting here when everyone's talking 23 00:00:50,960 --> 00:00:53,320 about their relationships and looked at me like a mug. 24 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:55,760 ..Ashley revealed the devastating truth. 25 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:57,960 I asked him, "Do you love her?" 26 00:00:58,000 --> 00:00:59,120 He couldn't really answer it. 27 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:03,120 Now I just feel like a BLEEP idiot. 28 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:04,920 I don't know what else I can do. 29 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:08,080 Tonight... 30 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:09,120 Oi, oi! 31 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:10,880 ..it's the retreat dinner party. 32 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:12,160 Hello. 33 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:14,840 As Joe's late arrival... 34 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:17,440 You got asked if you had any feelings towards me. 35 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:19,920 ..sparks an explosive showdown with Maeve. 36 00:01:19,960 --> 00:01:21,160 You didn't say anything. 37 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:22,480 What the BLEEP am I meant to do? 38 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:24,440 I've been crying for a week, man! 39 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:27,040 For Julia-Ruth and Divarni... 40 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:29,080 You could have walked away. You're a grown man. 41 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:31,400 ..their marital crisis spirals... 42 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:32,920 Don't talk to me like I'm a BLEEP kid. 43 00:01:32,960 --> 00:01:34,120 Well, then, don't act like one. 44 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:36,360 It's always about you, and this is the problem. 45 00:01:36,400 --> 00:01:38,680 ..and the group is caught in the crossfire. 46 00:01:38,720 --> 00:01:40,080 Why are you so worried, babe? 47 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:42,320 He deserves the best, and you haven't given him that. 48 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:44,240 I don't give a BLEEP! 49 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:46,080 I think you've hurt the boy sitting next to you. 50 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:49,120 Pull your BLEEP up because you're boring as BLEEP, seriously. 51 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:50,400 You're an evil person. 52 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:05,640 How are you feeling after girls' day, Leah? 53 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:07,360 I'm a little bit worse for wear today. 54 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:10,600 Morning. Morning. 55 00:02:10,640 --> 00:02:14,840 The couples are waking up to their final day of the retreat. 56 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:16,800 Your arms look very muscly today, Ashley. 57 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:18,600 Thank you. I was just thinking that, Ash. 58 00:02:18,640 --> 00:02:20,040 I haven't trained for four days, actually, 59 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:21,720 but thank you very much for the compliment. 60 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:25,400 I thought you was having a tea. 61 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:34,240 Have I caught the sun? 62 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:37,880 Yes, you definitely caught the sun. 63 00:02:37,920 --> 00:02:40,880 Waking up this morning, you know, it was girls' day yesterday. 64 00:02:40,920 --> 00:02:42,960 I am feeling hazy. 65 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:45,120 It was a good day, though. 66 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:46,840 Yeah? You have fun? 67 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:49,440 Yes, I believe I did. 68 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:50,720 Maybe too much fun. 69 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:53,320 How did your games go yesterday? 70 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:55,520 The gold envelope come out? 71 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:58,560 Mm, yeah, it did. Yeah, obviously. 72 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:00,640 I think one of the questions was, "Who would you pick 73 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:02,720 "to be with outside of your own marriage?" 74 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:04,960 Um, and I just said the same as I did last time - Ash. 75 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:07,520 Yeah. Who did you guys have? Was it the funniest...? 76 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:08,840 We had the funniest. 77 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:11,840 Um, I said you and Leisha. 78 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:12,880 Oh, yeah. 79 00:03:12,920 --> 00:03:15,280 Obviously, Ash had said you as well. 80 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:16,800 Well, fair. 81 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:18,960 Yeah, I answered mine honestly. He is, do you know what I mean? 82 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,320 If I was paired with someone else, it would be Ash, but... 83 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:23,000 I mean, we always said that we were just going 84 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:25,480 to answer these hypothetical questions. 85 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:26,520 Doesn't mean anything. 86 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:28,240 It's just a game, isn't it, at the end of the day? 87 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:31,640 Me and April, we just had a little debrief. 88 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:35,280 These questions, they are there to test our marriages. 89 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:38,320 There's no point reading too much into it. 90 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,560 I suppose I'm just going to have to deal with it. 91 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:43,600 So, yeah. 92 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:48,440 Did you speak to Ashley? 93 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:51,840 Yeah. 94 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:55,000 I was like, "I shouldn't be finding out how Joe feels through Ashley." 95 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:58,120 Like, that's not...OK. No. 96 00:03:58,160 --> 00:03:59,720 I'm not angry at him. 97 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:01,600 But, like, I'm more angry at Joe. The situation. 98 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:02,920 Mm. Yeah. 99 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:04,880 What if Joe just decides to come tonight? 100 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:06,480 Well, that's fine. 101 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:07,960 Let him show up. 102 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:09,480 It's been over a week. 103 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:11,200 Do you know what I mean? 104 00:04:11,240 --> 00:04:13,360 I think you need to hear an explanation from him. 105 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:15,480 If I were you, I would like some clarity on some things. 106 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:17,160 I think you deserve that, at least. 107 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:18,280 Yeah. 108 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:22,200 I get that, obviously, he's struggling, but at the same time, 109 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:24,360 I'm meant to be there for my husband, 110 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:26,520 and I can't be there for my husband cos he's not here. 111 00:04:27,840 --> 00:04:29,120 I am broken. 112 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:31,320 It's really upset me, and I'm hurt, 113 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:33,880 and I feel like this isn't the Joe that I know. 114 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:37,880 Why would I want to be with someone that can do this to us? 115 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:39,920 Show up tonight. It's the last night of the retreat. 116 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:41,800 Literally the last night of the retreat. 117 00:04:41,840 --> 00:04:42,840 Just shit. 118 00:04:46,840 --> 00:04:48,320 I feel a little bit tired this morning, but I feel 119 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:51,080 like we had a really good girls' day yesterday, didn't you? Yeah. 120 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:53,240 We had to have that discussion with Julia-Ruth, didn't we? 121 00:04:53,280 --> 00:04:55,000 Like, we knew it was going to happen. Yeah. Yeah. 122 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:56,640 I think, at first, her apology was just 123 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:58,480 a bit more just she knew she had to say sorry, 124 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:01,520 so she was saying it as opposed to realising the damage 125 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:03,280 that she could have potentially done. 126 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:05,200 I think it was like a sweeping apology of like, 127 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:07,200 "I'm just sorry to everyone cos I know I've done wrong." 128 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:08,920 And she still kind of didn't... 129 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:12,120 Yeah, she didn't. ..didn't take accountability for it all. 130 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:15,360 Did she end up admitting that it wasn't a bit of a plot, didn't she? 131 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:16,520 Sort of. Yeah. 132 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:18,560 That's what I mean - it was all kind of. 133 00:05:18,600 --> 00:05:21,240 She basically said, when she met you, 134 00:05:21,280 --> 00:05:23,520 she realised that she liked your energy and the way you look 135 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:24,800 and everything. 136 00:05:24,840 --> 00:05:27,080 She didn't say, "I plotted," but she was basically saying, 137 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:28,440 "Because Steven's my type, 138 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:30,200 "I did want to get to wife swap 139 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:33,960 "and I wanted to spend time with him and see if we had like a good time." 140 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:35,880 So we were like, "Well, so you're basically trying 141 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:38,520 "to get into him, like you're trying to turn his head." 142 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:44,800 I know I'm going to have to see Julia-Ruth at the dinner party, 143 00:05:44,840 --> 00:05:46,040 but I can't be fake. 144 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:47,240 I am annoyed at her. 145 00:05:47,280 --> 00:05:49,960 It's bringing out the insecurities about the way I look and stuff 146 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:52,200 cos obviously I look at her, I think she's gorgeous 147 00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:54,960 and she's a 10-10, and I'm like, "How do I compete with that?" 148 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:57,320 It's in the back of my mind, it always will be. 149 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:00,600 It's just a selfish thing. And also, that's not why we're here. 150 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:02,880 She doesn't get to choose who she's with 151 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:05,240 and steal someone's husband. 152 00:06:05,280 --> 00:06:06,640 Or try to. Or try to. 153 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:08,040 Sorry, yeah. Try to. 154 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:09,560 Yeah, 100%. 155 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:12,560 The Nelly and Julia-Ruth situation is, it is wild. 156 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:14,560 Personally, I'm just getting frustrated cos I think Nelly 157 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:16,000 should be secure in herself. 158 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:17,920 So, going into the dinner party tonight, 159 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:19,680 hopefully my name doesn't get mentioned 160 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:21,160 and cause any more drama. 161 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,440 Let me just eat my dinner and drink my drink and go home. 162 00:06:30,280 --> 00:06:33,880 I definitely needed some time to think away from Julia-Ruth. 163 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:36,520 A lot has transpired. 164 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:38,600 There has been a lot of pain. 165 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:41,200 I would like some accountability. 166 00:06:42,720 --> 00:06:44,640 Of course, feelings just don't go away overnight, 167 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:46,720 but I have to be realistic with myself 168 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:49,280 if it's really going to progress forward. 169 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:51,760 And I've come to that realisation that it's not. 170 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:55,120 Going into the dinner party, 171 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:57,320 Julia-Ruth needs to know where, obviously, I stand. 172 00:07:04,840 --> 00:07:09,360 It took the girls' day out to acknowledge 173 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:10,840 that it doesn't matter what I say. 174 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:12,760 People want to hear what they want to hear. 175 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:14,920 They don't want to hear how I feel. 176 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:18,360 The girls' day kicked off really quickly, 177 00:07:18,400 --> 00:07:20,440 like Nelly piping up about the relationship. 178 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:22,560 I'm like, "You're such an insecure person." 179 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:25,840 A lot has happened since being here. 180 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:28,640 Divarni should have been by my side, and he wasn't. 181 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:31,120 I don't really care any more. 182 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:32,800 The gloves are off. 183 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:36,280 I'm not going down silent or without a fight. 184 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:37,320 I'm back to me. 185 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:47,680 I don't want to do another dinner party alone, man. 186 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:50,320 I'm here by myself 187 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:52,760 when everyone else is with their other half. 188 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:54,200 Of course, I'm going to be hurting. 189 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:02,880 I'm a little bit nervous about seeing Maeve. 190 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:09,400 The marriage is a bit up in the air since I left... 191 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:13,520 ..but I've come back with a more positive mind frame, 192 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:15,960 with the intention of trying to go forward with things. 193 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:24,280 I don't know what me future looks like for me and Joe. 194 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:27,360 I've been waiting and waiting for him to come back. 195 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:29,680 I do want answers but, at the same time, 196 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:31,400 is him not being here my closure? 197 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:36,040 Our chapter is unfinished. 198 00:08:37,200 --> 00:08:38,440 It's make or break. 199 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:47,080 Hello. 200 00:08:47,120 --> 00:08:48,400 Are you for real? 201 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:50,400 What? Are you for real? 202 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:51,920 What? Ugh! 203 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:56,840 Well, I wasn't expecting that. 204 00:08:56,880 --> 00:08:58,520 What were you expecting, like? 205 00:08:58,560 --> 00:08:59,560 I don't know. 206 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:04,520 What, like a hello, maybe. 207 00:09:04,560 --> 00:09:06,200 I'm really confused. 208 00:09:06,240 --> 00:09:08,960 You're confused? Yeah. You're confused? Yeah. 209 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:11,280 How, how, how are you confused? 210 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:13,120 Well, you're not saying anything. 211 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:14,880 You're acting like you fuck... Oh! 212 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:16,840 I'm acting like what, that I've been fucking left 213 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:18,600 and didn't know what the fuck was going on? 214 00:09:18,640 --> 00:09:19,880 Is that how I'm acting? 215 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:20,960 You knew what was going on. 216 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:23,800 You knew why I fucking went home. 217 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:27,040 I've had...I've had to go home for personal reasons. 218 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:29,560 I ain't just fucked off on holiday. 219 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:32,720 So if I can just say something without you, 220 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:35,640 like, reacting, and just let me say it. 221 00:09:35,680 --> 00:09:37,400 Mm-hm. 222 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:41,640 So, I was coming here with a bit more of a positive mindset about... 223 00:09:42,680 --> 00:09:44,840 ..like, maybe we could, like, 224 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:48,440 make things, or try and make things work. 225 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:50,920 What did you say to Ashley, at the spa? 226 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:52,920 What do you mean? 227 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:54,680 Well, you obviously had a conversation with Ashley. 228 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:56,600 Yeah, I said what I've said to you. Yeah. 229 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:57,840 What? 230 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:00,240 That, like, we've got problems. 231 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:03,720 Um, there's, like, big differences, but I still, 232 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:04,960 like, love you and care about you. 233 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:06,320 That's what I said. 234 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:08,520 Well, that's not what I've been told. 235 00:10:08,560 --> 00:10:10,160 Well, tell me, then. 236 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:12,280 You got asked a question, right, 237 00:10:12,320 --> 00:10:14,320 if you had any feelings towards me, 238 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:16,760 and apparently you didn't say anything. 239 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:18,880 I can't fucking recite it, 240 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:21,040 or whatever the fuck you say, word for word. 241 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:23,600 He said, "Do you love her?" 242 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:26,200 And I said, "Yeah, I do love her in a certain way, 243 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:29,400 "but are we deeply, madly in love? Probably not." 244 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:30,720 That's what I said. 245 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:31,760 Cos we're not. 246 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:34,800 It's not a big deal. 247 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:36,440 It's not a big deal? 248 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:37,480 Why? I don't... 249 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:40,320 Well, it is a bit of a big deal, 250 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:42,120 when you're saying one thing to him and another to me. 251 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:44,920 Like, you've said that you love us on the couch, 252 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:46,200 and then next thing you know, like, 253 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:47,920 "Oh, yeah, like, I feel like we're a proper couple." 254 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:51,600 And then...the next time I'm doing it, I was by meself. 255 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:56,120 Have you ever, like, thought about my point of view in this? 256 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:57,160 No? 257 00:10:57,200 --> 00:10:59,680 I've been fucking crying for a week, man! 258 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:01,040 It's not OK! 259 00:11:01,080 --> 00:11:03,280 What the fuck am I meant to do? 260 00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:05,440 Like, this is the fucking problem. 261 00:11:05,480 --> 00:11:07,200 We can't just have a conversation. 262 00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:10,880 It's clear that there's, like, a massive issue with, 263 00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:12,680 like, our communication. 264 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:15,080 You're making out that I'm always the problem. 265 00:11:15,120 --> 00:11:16,120 I'm not. But you are. 266 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:18,040 I'm really confused to how what I've just said... Right. 267 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:19,400 Whatever. ..is making out you're the problem. 268 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:21,160 But this IS the problem. 269 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:24,600 What's happened has just opened me eyes again. 270 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:28,160 It's just not going to work, is it? 271 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:31,440 Well, what's the point? 272 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:32,480 What is the point? 273 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:37,640 Yeah, this ain't going to get resolved, so... 274 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:40,000 ..let's just call it a day. 275 00:11:41,160 --> 00:11:42,800 I don't give a fuck. 276 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:44,520 I actually don't. Really? No, I don't. 277 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:46,720 I don't care. 278 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:49,000 Fuck this. 279 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:51,000 Fuck this. 280 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:57,400 I'm so confused with everything that's going on. 281 00:11:57,440 --> 00:11:59,640 Joe shouldn't have said that he loves me. 282 00:11:59,680 --> 00:12:02,960 You don't tell someone that you love them and don't mean it. 283 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:04,040 That's on you. 284 00:12:05,560 --> 00:12:06,600 No chance. 285 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:19,360 Well, here we are, fifth dinner party. 286 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:21,400 Not only that, we're on retreat. 287 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:22,880 Right. And, of course, this is such 288 00:12:22,920 --> 00:12:24,520 a fascinating stage of the experiment, 289 00:12:24,560 --> 00:12:25,800 where our couples are in 290 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:27,600 a much more relaxed environment. 291 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:28,920 It tends to be quite revealing. 292 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:32,400 People drop the mask and really start to show who they are. 293 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:34,560 Yeah, I think this kind of vulnerability helps 294 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:37,040 to forge some really great connections, 295 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:38,680 so let's see how they get on. 296 00:12:40,560 --> 00:12:42,640 Are you excited? I am. 297 00:12:42,680 --> 00:12:43,880 We're the first. 298 00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:47,080 And we skip. I love it. 299 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:49,280 Davide and Keye. 300 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:51,000 Looking loved-up as always. 301 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:54,400 You feel like they always come in as a unified couple. Yeah. 302 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:57,880 How are you feeling about our dinner party? 303 00:12:57,920 --> 00:12:59,040 Good. Yeah? 304 00:12:59,080 --> 00:13:02,040 Can't wait for a nice quiet one. 305 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:04,640 I think, I think now you're being optimistic. 306 00:13:04,680 --> 00:13:07,000 Unrealistically optimistic. 307 00:13:08,600 --> 00:13:09,640 Oi, oi. Hello. 308 00:13:09,680 --> 00:13:11,760 Hi, guys. How are you? 309 00:13:11,800 --> 00:13:13,360 We're good. How are you? 310 00:13:13,400 --> 00:13:16,880 Good. Thank you. Looking dapper. You look stunning. 311 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:19,760 Well, of course, last time we saw Grace and Ashley on the couch, 312 00:13:19,800 --> 00:13:20,920 things were very tense, 313 00:13:20,960 --> 00:13:24,040 but their body language is a lot more at ease, 314 00:13:24,080 --> 00:13:25,560 there's less tension there, 315 00:13:25,600 --> 00:13:27,360 and they're laughing and smiling together. 316 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:30,520 Did you enjoy girls' day? Yeah. 317 00:13:30,560 --> 00:13:31,920 Well, I keep saying there was no drama 318 00:13:31,960 --> 00:13:33,840 at girls' day, but... I know! 319 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:35,880 We may have misremembered it. 320 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:38,440 Uh, it doesn't seem like Maeve is feeling great. 321 00:13:38,480 --> 00:13:40,240 Look, I knew it was kind of... 322 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:42,320 It was obvious it was coming, and she's going to be hurt about it, 323 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:43,840 but I thought I was doing the right thing. 324 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:48,120 I was trying to give Joe the opportunity to speak to her. 325 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:50,720 What exactly did Joe say to you? 326 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:52,680 Oh, to be honest, it was so long ago as well. 327 00:13:52,720 --> 00:13:56,120 I think he just mentioned that their compatibility, 328 00:13:56,160 --> 00:13:57,960 he was struggling with their compatibility. 329 00:13:58,000 --> 00:14:00,520 And they've just, in their marriage, 330 00:14:00,560 --> 00:14:03,880 they've been skimming over things and not really addressing them. 331 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:06,040 He was really struggling with the relationship 332 00:14:06,080 --> 00:14:07,760 and whether it was right or not. 333 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:09,480 He was questioning whether it was right or not. 334 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:13,240 Ashley said that he had spoken to Joe, 335 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:15,440 but it sounds like a lot more was discussed, 336 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:17,600 more than we actually realised. 337 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:19,800 When Joe was at the last commitment ceremony, 338 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:23,480 he talked about his struggle in opening up to Maeve, 339 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:26,320 but yet he had no issues opening up to Ashley. 340 00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:28,200 Yeah. 341 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:30,240 But I was like looking after Maeve when she was crying, 342 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:32,960 and I felt awful, do you know what I mean? Yeah. 343 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:36,440 Cos it wasn't my place to kind of say it. 344 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:39,480 We could tell at the commitment ceremony that you were like... 345 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:40,720 Conflicted. Conflicted. 346 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:43,680 You just wanted to say something, but you couldn't say it. 347 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:47,280 I was lying to her as well, to Grace, 348 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:48,680 and that was kind of eating me up. 349 00:14:48,720 --> 00:14:49,920 You were between a rock and a hard place. 350 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:52,280 There was no way you were winning in this. Yeah. No. 351 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:59,520 THEY EXCHANGE GREETINGS 352 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:01,040 Rebecca and Bailey. 353 00:15:01,080 --> 00:15:03,360 They seem to just get more and more comfortable 354 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:05,840 with each other every week, don't they? Yes, yes. 355 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:10,080 And also, Bailey's sleeves get tighter and tighter every week. 356 00:15:10,120 --> 00:15:11,120 Yeah. 357 00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:14,120 What happened in girls' day? 358 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:16,120 Yeah, give us the entire day. We had a good day. 359 00:15:16,160 --> 00:15:17,760 I had such a good time. You always do. 360 00:15:17,800 --> 00:15:20,720 I'm a little bit jealous of girls' day. We had a really good time. 361 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:22,200 There was questions that went round. 362 00:15:22,240 --> 00:15:24,880 "Who would you rather be matched or married to?" 363 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:27,640 Julia-Ruth locked in Steven on both of the questions. 364 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:29,440 I also feel like... Stop! 365 00:15:30,520 --> 00:15:32,080 No, you're joking! 366 00:15:32,120 --> 00:15:34,600 I mean, I know these games are important, 367 00:15:34,640 --> 00:15:36,160 but, like, she didn't HAVE to say it. 368 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:37,640 She could be like, "Guys, I've hurt Nelly enough. 369 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:39,400 "I'm not going to say any more. We all know the answer." 370 00:15:41,200 --> 00:15:43,840 Julia-Ruth has chosen Steven again? 371 00:15:43,880 --> 00:15:46,080 That's going to cause some tension, I'm sure. 372 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:49,600 And a bold move on Julia-Ruth's part, I must say. 373 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:52,560 THEY EXCHANGE GREETINGS 374 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:54,840 And here they come - Nelly and Steven. 375 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:56,720 Hey, handsome. How are you? 376 00:15:56,760 --> 00:15:57,760 You good? 377 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:01,760 Nelly, is there anything you can share from yesterday? 378 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:03,600 Cos I think we've shared it all. 379 00:16:03,640 --> 00:16:06,160 Obviously, Julia-Ruth and... 380 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:07,320 Yeah, straight in. 381 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:11,240 I'll be civil to her. I have no problem with that. 382 00:16:11,280 --> 00:16:13,000 But I have no interest in... 383 00:16:13,040 --> 00:16:14,880 Yeah, I'd have no interest in being her mate. 384 00:16:14,920 --> 00:16:17,360 She did an apology in a baby voice and then burst into tears. 385 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:18,400 Oh! 386 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:21,080 We've, we've all done it. It's not a sincere apology. 387 00:16:21,120 --> 00:16:23,440 I'm so sorry... IMITATES BABY VOICE 388 00:16:23,480 --> 00:16:25,280 Like, it's not sincere. 389 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:28,600 So the group is really starting to see right through Julia-Ruth, 390 00:16:28,640 --> 00:16:31,240 and now everyone is very sceptical of her. 391 00:16:31,280 --> 00:16:32,720 And you have to wonder, 392 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:35,400 once she becomes aware that the group is sceptical, 393 00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:37,040 what does she then do? Right. 394 00:16:38,800 --> 00:16:43,000 THEY EXCHANGE GREETINGS 395 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:46,480 Leisha holds on to Reiss for dear life. 396 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:47,640 Gorgeous. How are you? 397 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:50,200 You all right, my friend? How are you? How are you? 398 00:16:50,240 --> 00:16:51,520 Mwah. How are you? Look at you. 399 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:52,640 I love the straight hair. 400 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:54,480 Wow, what's everyone on? The beers, yeah? Yeah. 401 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:59,040 Things are sound as a pound with you and Reiss? 402 00:16:59,080 --> 00:17:01,600 Yeah, things have been going really well, yeah. 403 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:03,080 He's still quite a closed book, though. 404 00:17:03,120 --> 00:17:04,920 I think there's still, like, a lot of layers to Reiss, 405 00:17:04,960 --> 00:17:07,520 and I feel like it just will take time. Yeah. 406 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:09,440 Cos I'm such an open book - what you see is what you get - 407 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:11,440 and I feel like I am struggling a little bit with that 408 00:17:11,480 --> 00:17:12,680 cos I'm so not used to it. 409 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:15,240 And then I kind of take it as a rejection. 410 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:17,680 Reiss and Leisha continue to have an issue 411 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:20,720 with pacing and appreciation, really, 412 00:17:20,760 --> 00:17:24,280 for the speed that they need to become emotionally intimate. 413 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:28,160 And also, Reiss's natural character is quite laid back, isn't it? 414 00:17:28,200 --> 00:17:30,600 Yeah! And so maybe what Leisha also needs to do 415 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:33,080 is to acknowledge that this just might be him. 416 00:17:33,120 --> 00:17:34,200 Yeah. 417 00:17:34,240 --> 00:17:35,960 And how's things with you and Ashley? 418 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:38,280 I can see that there's definitely feelings there. 419 00:17:38,320 --> 00:17:39,920 Yeah. 100%. 420 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:43,320 I have been a little bit challenged because April just... 421 00:17:43,360 --> 00:17:45,440 Keeps going at Ash. ..goes for Ash every time. 422 00:17:45,480 --> 00:17:47,960 Like, she could change it up. She could choose someone different. 423 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:49,160 Yeah. She's been quite clear. 424 00:17:49,200 --> 00:17:52,120 And she's never once come to me and sort of said that. 425 00:17:52,160 --> 00:17:54,760 Do you think it's worth you having that conversation? 426 00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:57,080 No, it's more like... It's just a bit rude now. 427 00:17:57,120 --> 00:17:59,920 Just a bit like, "What's happening?" Honestly, do... 428 00:17:59,960 --> 00:18:02,920 OK, so that's new information for us. 429 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:06,840 And we're seeing Grace defaulting into that comedy mode again 430 00:18:06,880 --> 00:18:09,200 as a way of really protecting herself. 431 00:18:09,240 --> 00:18:10,880 You can see she's feeling uncomfortable. 432 00:18:10,920 --> 00:18:12,080 Yes. 433 00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:19,960 Oh, look, here he is. 434 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:21,560 JUDGES GROAN 435 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:23,000 Divarni's alone. 436 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,440 You OK, my boy? Yeah... Come on, Divarni, brother. 437 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:27,640 Good on him, though. Yeah, good on him. 438 00:18:27,680 --> 00:18:30,200 I was going to be... If they walked, if they walked in together, 439 00:18:30,240 --> 00:18:33,280 I'd have been like, "No, I'm not even doing the dinner party." 440 00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:36,600 Cheers, bruv. Cheers. Cheers. 441 00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:38,480 Hey. Have you spoken to Ruth? 442 00:18:38,520 --> 00:18:40,920 No, I haven't seen her. Have you not? No. OK. Shit. 443 00:18:40,960 --> 00:18:42,320 The hardest part about all of this 444 00:18:42,360 --> 00:18:43,840 is the fact that I actually like her. 445 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:45,320 That's the hardest part. 446 00:18:45,360 --> 00:18:48,440 And brushing that to say that I don't 447 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:50,680 is a complete fucking lie. 448 00:18:50,720 --> 00:18:52,240 But, yeah, a little bit of nerves, 449 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:54,560 but it's just having that real conversation. 450 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:57,360 I really feel for Divarni. 451 00:18:57,400 --> 00:19:00,960 He came here hoping that things were going to work out and, 452 00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:03,160 well, it doesn't feel like that's happened. Yeah. 453 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:05,480 I feel like you're being strong, mate. It's a difficult situation. 454 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:07,800 You're in this experiment. You've gone through a lot. 455 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:09,280 And I'm hoping that some of 456 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:11,840 this discussion he's having here with the men in the group 457 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:14,520 will help him realise he deserves a lot more. 458 00:19:16,960 --> 00:19:19,440 Hello. Hello! 459 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:21,640 How's everybody? 460 00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:22,960 Ah. 461 00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:25,280 John and Abi. I mean, look at them. 462 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:27,280 Gorgeously happy, as always. 463 00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:29,720 Hi. How are you? You all right? I'm good. 464 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:33,640 You could say pretty perfectly matched, right? Yeah. 465 00:19:35,360 --> 00:19:38,200 How are you getting on? Yeah. I'm getting on really well. 466 00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:40,360 Yeah. We're just more comfortable with each other, 467 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:42,080 and, like, it's bringing out kind of, 468 00:19:42,120 --> 00:19:44,640 like, different sides to us. Like, we're goofy with each other now. 469 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:46,440 Like, we just mess around and have fun. 470 00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:47,840 And it's not... Like at the beginning, 471 00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:49,280 it's kind of like more serious chat, isn't it? 472 00:19:49,320 --> 00:19:50,680 Cos you're getting to know each other. 473 00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:53,240 Maybe that's where we went wrong. What, we got to know each other? 474 00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:56,720 No. They went they went serious to goofy. I went goofy to serious. 475 00:19:56,760 --> 00:20:00,440 Yeah. Yeah. I think... That's what it was. 476 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:02,360 I wanted to just, uh... Yeah. 477 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:04,320 Basically see how everything's getting on. 478 00:20:04,360 --> 00:20:08,080 There's a few things that need to be different, I think. 479 00:20:08,120 --> 00:20:10,880 The Julia-Ruth situation has played out. Of course, I know. 480 00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:14,320 She said to me, "Look, when someone like Julia-Ruth comes in..." 481 00:20:14,360 --> 00:20:17,120 and she sees Julia-Ruth as like a 10-10, 482 00:20:17,160 --> 00:20:18,720 so why wouldn't I be interested in that? 483 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:20,640 And I'm like, "Yeah, but what you got to realise is 484 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:22,040 "you're a 10-10 as well." 485 00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:24,320 I know she likes you. Like, she only wants to be with you. 486 00:20:24,360 --> 00:20:25,840 You know that. She thinks the world of you. 487 00:20:25,880 --> 00:20:29,680 But she doesn't feel totally secure. You know what I mean? 488 00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:31,920 So what we've seen here is that Steven 489 00:20:31,960 --> 00:20:34,200 is clearly getting quite frustrated. 490 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:37,800 He probably feels that by saying to Nelly, 491 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:40,960 "Julia-Ruth's a ten and you're a ten," he's done his work. 492 00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:44,960 Yeah. But I imagine that would probably fall on deaf ears. 493 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:48,360 Nelly's been cheated on by her previous three partners. Wow. 494 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:50,720 There's so much pain there. She needs more. 495 00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:53,480 She needs real reassurance. She needs action. Yes. 496 00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:58,040 Oh, hey. Hey, everyone. How are you doing? 497 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:00,400 Hello, my love. 498 00:21:02,040 --> 00:21:03,520 A confident entrance. 499 00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:07,000 April has a spring in her step as soon as she sees the group. 500 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:09,840 You've caught the sun like me. You have! Great time. 501 00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:11,280 I'm quite like you. 502 00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:14,800 How are you doing? Really good. How's everything with April? Yeah. 503 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:16,000 Yeah. Good. 504 00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:18,480 Um, I think I just needed this retreat this week to... 505 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:19,560 Oh, good. Yeah. 506 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:22,080 ..to get more... Closer? 507 00:21:22,120 --> 00:21:24,800 Closer, but be a bit more myself as well. 508 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:25,880 April's a very supportive person. 509 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:27,640 She is very supportive. And very patient. 510 00:21:27,680 --> 00:21:29,400 So I am lucky that I've got her. 511 00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:31,720 Very vibrant, very confident. 100%. 512 00:21:31,760 --> 00:21:33,800 She's someone you'd be attracted to on the outside? 513 00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:36,200 Yeah. Yeah? Massively. Looks wise as well? 514 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:37,480 Yeah. Dream woman? 515 00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,000 Yeah. OK. Yeah. Great. 516 00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:40,320 Hmm. OK. 517 00:21:40,360 --> 00:21:43,400 What he's saying is, "Yeah, things are great." 518 00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:47,720 Be interesting to see what April feels about this. 519 00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:49,760 How has your retreat been so far? 520 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,160 Ah, yeah. No, I like... I've really, really enjoyed it. 521 00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:54,320 I think the whole thing last week with me and Leo 522 00:21:54,360 --> 00:21:56,440 was that we needed to spend more time together. 523 00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:58,680 And I can see this week that he's had, 524 00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:01,400 you know, he has come a bit out of his shell more. He said that. 525 00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:04,160 Yeah. The only thing I'd say with him is like, 526 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:05,720 he really does like you. 527 00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:07,720 He's such a genuine boy. 528 00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:10,720 He's so nice. Yeah. I mean... 529 00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:12,160 What I'm struggling with at the minute is 530 00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,840 I'm starting to feel guilt. 531 00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:17,480 Where there isn't a connection for me, I just wanted that. 532 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:19,320 It's not like I'm like, "Oh, I want your connection," 533 00:22:19,360 --> 00:22:22,320 cos, you know, you're like 15 million steps ahead of us. 534 00:22:22,360 --> 00:22:26,080 So that's not even, like, remotely that for me at the minute. 535 00:22:26,120 --> 00:22:27,640 You feel it at all or...? What? 536 00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:29,720 Like, you don't have that at all? 537 00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:31,200 Any... Emotional connection? 538 00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:32,280 Yeah. 539 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:36,240 You can, like, you can be honest with it. 540 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:38,080 Um... 541 00:22:38,120 --> 00:22:39,520 Probably not though. 542 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:40,920 Oh, wow. 543 00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:44,480 Do you miss him at all or no, when you're with the girls? 544 00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:51,160 Are you excited to get back to him? 545 00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:56,640 Are you excited when you see him? 546 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:58,160 Like... 547 00:22:58,200 --> 00:22:59,920 Are these all the things you wish were there? 548 00:22:59,960 --> 00:23:02,000 Yeah. Yeah. Course. 549 00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:03,640 I think what's a shame here is 550 00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:06,440 that Leo seems completely oblivious to this. 551 00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:10,320 You know, he isn't aware at all that April has these feelings. 552 00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:15,320 It's a personal question, so feel free just to not answer. 553 00:23:15,360 --> 00:23:19,720 But how did you feel like about him after you connected physically? 554 00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:23,000 We did it pretty much instantly 555 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:24,400 and then a few times on the honeymoon, 556 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:26,640 but each time I was intoxicated. 557 00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:27,880 Yeah. 558 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:30,400 And then the one time I did it sober 559 00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:32,000 because we didn't have that emotional connection, 560 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:33,800 I was like, "OK, this is not for me." 561 00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:35,040 OK. Do you know what I mean? 562 00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:37,440 So maybe that's how you... That is how you truly felt. 563 00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:38,480 Yeah, maybe. 564 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:39,880 Hmm. 565 00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:44,840 I think Rebecca is pushing the myth that sex is a test 566 00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:47,480 around whether or not there's a real relationship, 567 00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:50,400 and it's just not, you know, it's the emotional intimacy, 568 00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:53,000 the emotional connection that's paramount. 569 00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:58,360 But, like, this week has been a lot more positive. 570 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:01,000 And he's so good at listening to anything I have, 571 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,200 any grumbles with, and he is... 572 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:04,680 He is genuinely really trying, 573 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:08,040 and I think that's why I do feel more positively this week. 574 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,120 I don't want him to ever feel blindsided. 575 00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:12,520 It was hard to hear. 576 00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,040 She probably regrets sleeping with him, 577 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:17,200 but I feel like as a couple they've got so much potential, 578 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,200 so I hope they do make something work. 579 00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:22,560 And I think she's been really open and honest about her feelings 580 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:24,440 and I back her for that. 581 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:30,680 Grace, I feel really close to you at the moment. 582 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:32,640 Oh, Ash. Why? What's going on with you? 583 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,320 I don't know. That's why I think this retreat's been amazing for us. 584 00:24:35,360 --> 00:24:38,360 Oh, that's nice! Maybe it's the rose. 585 00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:40,560 HE LAUGHS 586 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:42,800 Have some more, babe. 587 00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:45,520 I think Ashley had a bit of a vulnerable moment there 588 00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:48,160 and then thought, "I'm being a bit too vulnerable." 589 00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:49,400 That's the shame. 590 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:51,600 If that interaction happened without the joke, 591 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:54,760 they would have connected on a deeper basis. Yeah. Yeah. 592 00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:56,160 How are you doing, April? 593 00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:57,760 Yeah, I'm all right, mate. How are you doing? 594 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:00,240 You've not had a good week, have you? 595 00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:02,520 I heard a bits and bobs about what happened 596 00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:04,160 on you guys' side yesterday. 597 00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:06,880 Everyone was getting the question. What was the question? 598 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,800 If you weren't with your partner, who would you be with? 599 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,800 So it was obviously a little bit intense for Julia-Ruth, 600 00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:15,440 but she just said it was Steven, 'cos she thought, 601 00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,560 "If I don't say his name again, it's going to be like I'm lying." 602 00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:21,840 Yeah. And she was like, "Cos I've already said that." 603 00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:25,440 So it would seem that she would be lying again if she didn't. Yeah. 604 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,200 At the last commitment ceremony, 605 00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,480 we were highly frustrated with Divarni 606 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,880 and we let him know he needed a reality check. 607 00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:36,400 Hearing that Julia-Ruth has picked Steven again, 608 00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:38,360 I think he just got it. Yeah. 609 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:39,440 It's just sad. 610 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,680 It's sad and emotional for sure, because it's like, 611 00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:45,320 I feel like my feelings did play a huge part in, like, 612 00:25:45,360 --> 00:25:47,520 me not seeing the truth. 613 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:51,800 It is definitely frustrating to hear, 614 00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:53,400 like, what happened yesterday - 615 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,520 your wife talk about another man - for sure. 616 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:57,120 But the marriage is over 617 00:25:57,160 --> 00:25:59,600 and I've got a lot to discuss with Julia-Ruth. 618 00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,400 Get off my chest the stuff that I need to get off. 619 00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:04,280 And...that's it. 620 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,880 Hello. Hello. Hi. 621 00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:12,640 Ah, here's Leigh and Leah. 622 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:15,080 Good to see ya. You got a nice little colour. 623 00:26:15,120 --> 00:26:16,560 Thank you. Hello. You all right? Good, you? 624 00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:20,320 Your energy seems low. Are you good? No, no, no. The bubbles. 625 00:26:20,360 --> 00:26:22,920 There's a lighter energy here. They're holding hands. 626 00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:25,960 So this is definitely a step forward. 627 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:27,560 Do you guys think Joe will show up today? 628 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:29,200 Yeah. Mm-hm. Do you reckon? 629 00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:31,200 I don't know if it's just, like, a gut feeling. 630 00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,160 There's just like an air of something going on. 631 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,280 If he wants to close it or he wants to keep it going, 632 00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:37,800 today has to be the day. So... 633 00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:48,280 Maeve. Maeve! Oh, no. 634 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,200 Oh, and here's Maeve entering alone. 635 00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:54,400 You all right? You all right? It's OK. 636 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:55,840 Fucking hell. 637 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,400 Oh, in tears immediately. 638 00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:00,040 You OK? 639 00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:02,440 No, am I fuck. 640 00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:07,520 So, basically, um, Joe's just come back and, uh... 641 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:08,680 He's here? 642 00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:13,160 Oh. Joe is here. Wow. He's come back. 643 00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,560 Yeah, course I'm shaking cos he's a fucking arsehole. 644 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:21,040 And I was like, "You've had a conversation with Ashley, 645 00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:23,000 "and you said that you didn't know if you loved us." 646 00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:24,080 And he was like, 647 00:27:24,120 --> 00:27:25,800 "Anyway, when I said I loved you, it wasn't that deep. 648 00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,000 "I wasn't meaning it was like proper." What?! 649 00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:30,840 He was like, you know, "I'm not madly in love with you." 650 00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:33,200 And I...I was like, what the fuck? 651 00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:35,720 You know what he turned around and said? 652 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,760 "The communication." 653 00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:39,160 GASPS Excuse me? 654 00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,600 Or maybe it might be like how we talk to each other. 655 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,560 I just thought, "How much of a fucking mug am I?" 656 00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:46,760 You're not a mug. I am a mug! You're not, you're not. 657 00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:48,160 I know I am a mug 658 00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:50,760 because you don't fucking say that to someone. 659 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:54,600 You don't say that you love them and then fuck them off. 660 00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:56,880 The last thing he said to me was like, 661 00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,640 "It's done, the marriage is done." And then just stormed off. 662 00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:03,080 Just shit. Like, who the fuck are you doing that to? 663 00:28:03,120 --> 00:28:05,960 Like, you don't do that to someone. That's not on you. 664 00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:09,440 That's not on you. That's not on you. 665 00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:11,640 Oh, that's not fair. Shocking. 666 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:14,480 It sounds like he's just turned up to the retreat 667 00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:16,240 to tell Maeve that it's over. 668 00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:17,960 Ouch. So where is he? 669 00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:21,040 It's every fucking day. 670 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:22,760 It's nothing to do with you, man. It is... 671 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:26,280 No, he's a shitty person. No, no... This is a shitty thing. 672 00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:28,480 This is not on you. 673 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:30,800 Maeve, this is not on you. No! It's not you. 674 00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:33,680 It's not on you. It feels shit, man. 675 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:38,200 We know that one of Maeve's biggest fears is letting her guard down, 676 00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:39,560 falling in love with someone, 677 00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:42,080 and then them just leaving and deserting her. 678 00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:46,280 And it seems that this is playing out once again for her. 679 00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,200 Maeve looks fucking distraught. Yeah. 680 00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:52,520 I feel like it'd be important that she doesn't take this 681 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:54,760 and, like, kind of affect her going forward. 682 00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:59,120 Do you think him coming in was him like hoping 683 00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:01,360 to mend things or just tell her face-to-face that it was done? 684 00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:03,080 Why would you not get as far as coming in here? 685 00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:05,480 Like, how does that go? He's come a long way as well. 686 00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:07,080 Yeah. He's not... He's not a dickhead. 687 00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:08,720 No, he isn't. That's what I mean. 688 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:10,840 He's not handled this very well at all. 689 00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,080 We're kind of judging it just from Maeve's side. 690 00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:14,400 Yeah. That's true. 691 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:15,640 I think he's probably still here, 692 00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:16,960 so I'm gonna go and try and chat to him. 693 00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:18,640 I'll catch you in a minute. Yeah? See you in a bit. 694 00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:19,920 All right. See you in a bit. 695 00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:30,480 Um, I'm feeling a little shocked after the chat with Maeve. 696 00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:31,560 Um... 697 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:35,680 It's not really how I expected it to go. 698 00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:42,280 KNOCKING ON DOOR 699 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:45,480 Joe, are you all right? 700 00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:47,560 Let me finish this, mate, and then... 701 00:29:47,600 --> 00:29:49,800 I think it's a good time to have a chat, mate. 702 00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:55,000 No. Why not? 703 00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:58,320 It's not working. I came here with positive intentions 704 00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:00,480 to potentially carry it on. 705 00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:03,840 Yeah. It didn't go how I thought it was going to go, and that's that. 706 00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:06,400 Like... I'll tell you from my point of view, she's walked in. 707 00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:08,640 She said... Her words were that you said, 708 00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:10,440 "I said I was in love with you, but it weren't that deep. 709 00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:12,640 "I wasn't... It's not that deep for me to say I'm in love with you." 710 00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:15,800 I said, "Maybe we're not deeply, madly in love." 711 00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:18,800 You said you're coming in here hoping you can make it work. 712 00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:20,160 Everyone in there's saying, 713 00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:22,720 "Joe's a stand-up geezer. I never thought he'd do this. 714 00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:25,240 "He's a stand-up guy. I never thought it'd come to this." 715 00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:26,640 So I feel like it's important 716 00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:29,240 maybe for people to kind of hear where your head's at. 717 00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:32,640 It might be important in, like, that room, 718 00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:34,520 but to me, I honestly don't care. 719 00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:36,400 Yeah. Do you know what I'm saying? 720 00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:38,720 Is there nothing I can say to fucking... Honestly, bro. 721 00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:42,760 Like, the idea of, like, debating it and shit like that in there, 722 00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,720 I'm just not... It's just not... I just don't want it. 723 00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:48,920 So the marriage for you, what, is the marriage...? 724 00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:50,200 Yeah. Of course. What? Marriage done? 725 00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:51,280 Of course. 726 00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:01,360 I just wanted Joe to come in and get his point across. 727 00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:03,080 I know he's been struggling with a lot. 728 00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:05,080 It's going to be tough to tell Maeve that 729 00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:06,520 Joe said the marriage is done, 730 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:09,600 but it's important that Maeve kind of hears everything that he said. 731 00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:17,000 HE LAUGHS 732 00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:19,520 I can't believe that! 733 00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:21,560 Fucking Jesus, man. 734 00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:24,920 Fuck me. I just want to go home. 735 00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:26,800 Fuck this shit. 736 00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:28,280 Jesus Christ. 737 00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,600 I've said everything I need to say to Maeve today. 738 00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:34,080 The conversation we had 739 00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:36,920 made it clear to me that we can't move forward. 740 00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:40,160 I don't regret saying that I love her 741 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,400 because that's how I felt in the moment. 742 00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:44,000 My feelings have never been a lie. 743 00:31:44,040 --> 00:31:45,680 It's just whether we're right for each other. 744 00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:46,960 And I don't think we are. 745 00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:51,280 The marriage is 100% over between me and her. 746 00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:53,160 This is it. And it's done. 747 00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:12,880 He's coming in. Is he all right? 748 00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:14,840 Where's he been? 749 00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:17,320 No sign of Joe. 750 00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:20,440 No. It is a shame that he isn't able to come out 751 00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:22,720 and tell the group what's going on. 752 00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:26,200 And, of course, have a bit more of a conversation with Maeve. Right. 753 00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:27,680 I just had a little word with Joe. 754 00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:30,440 So he's not... He's not going to come in. 755 00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:31,720 Wow. 756 00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:34,280 Um, I did ask him about the marriage 757 00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:38,320 and he did say it's 100% over and it's done for him. 758 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,520 He said that he came here to make the marriage work. 759 00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:43,840 That's why he's come all the way. 760 00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:45,480 So why the fuck did he walk out then? 761 00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:48,000 Last time I found out how he felt was through Ashley 762 00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:50,160 and now it's through Bailey. 763 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:53,800 I did think there might have been, like, that little bit of hope, 764 00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:58,120 but what is the point in wanting someone that doesn't want you back? 765 00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:00,080 The end of it is he's not coming in. 766 00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:04,520 And he did say that the marriage is done. So... 767 00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:07,440 It really is a shame that Joe has chosen this way 768 00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:09,240 to end the relationship, 769 00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:11,720 rather than coming to us at a commitment ceremony 770 00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:15,400 where we could guide them as a couple through this process. 771 00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:18,680 It sounds like Joe's intention was to get things back on track, 772 00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:20,400 but it clearly has gone wrong. 773 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:23,080 But it still doesn't fully excuse him not being here 774 00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:25,640 and telling us what's going on. Mm. 775 00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:29,840 How are you feeling about Julia-Ruth coming in? 776 00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:31,080 I'm a bit anxious, a little bit nervous, 777 00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:32,920 but you know what I mean, it is what it is. 778 00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:34,200 I've been hearing all kinds of shit, 779 00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:35,880 and I've been mugged off multiple times, 780 00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:39,600 and I'm just hearing more in-depth details about everything else. 781 00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:41,360 And what's been recurring, unfortunately, 782 00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:42,920 is the whole Steven thing. 783 00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:44,960 Is that kind of like what's kind of been the tipping point? 784 00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:46,840 Is that what keeps coming back up? Yeah. 785 00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:48,760 And you weren't able to...? Just more details about it. Yeah. 786 00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:52,280 When she can't answer the experts whether she fancies you, 787 00:33:52,320 --> 00:33:54,440 your partner, like, that is wrong. 788 00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:56,720 Like, if you can't even say that you... Like, you... 789 00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:59,400 Here she comes, bro. ..you attractive, then, like, 100%. 790 00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:01,960 Hello! 791 00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:05,360 Oh, Julia-Ruth. Here she is. Yeah. 792 00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:06,400 Hello. 793 00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:10,120 Hello. Hi, gorgeous. How you doing, my love? 794 00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:17,360 Hi. Oh, you look great. You look amazing. 795 00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:24,640 Hi, bubba! Yeah, I'll say hi. I'm not...I'm not giving her a hug. 796 00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:26,320 You OK? Yeah, man. Yeah. 797 00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:28,720 It's always going to be difficult. It's always gonna be awkward. 798 00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:30,680 It's never going to be easy, honestly. 799 00:34:30,720 --> 00:34:32,920 How are you? Fab! Hi, bubba. 800 00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:37,920 I think if you've got anything to say to her... 801 00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:40,600 It has to be done now. I know. So say it now. 802 00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:43,240 Don't hold it in and let it come out later. 803 00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:44,520 No, no, no. 804 00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:48,120 Julia-Ruth is absolutely Divarni's weakness. 805 00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:50,440 He can't take his eyes off her. Yeah. 806 00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:52,240 And I feel like Julia-Ruth knows it. 807 00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:54,440 Did they say hi to each other? 808 00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:56,400 I don't know. Where is she? I missed the moment. 809 00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:58,880 Was there a hug? She's there behind you, with Leah. 810 00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:03,000 I think Divarni needs to have a chat with her more than Leah does. Yeah. 811 00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:06,720 Bro, you need to go and clear the air, 812 00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:09,080 speak to Julia-Ruth, just get everything off your chest. 813 00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:10,640 Why don't you go and pull her for a chat now? 814 00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:13,920 Yeah? Just go and do it, bro. You've gotta do it at some stage. 815 00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,560 Just go and do it. Yeah. I wish you all the luck, bro. 816 00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:18,440 Everyone... Everyone's gonna be looking. 817 00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:19,560 Come on, Divarni, you've got this. 818 00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:21,320 You've got this, bro. You've got this. 819 00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:25,360 Can I speak to you? Wanna have a conversation now? 820 00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:26,680 Yeah. You ready to have a conversation? 821 00:35:26,720 --> 00:35:28,080 Yeah. We can have a conversation. 822 00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:29,960 Oh, God. It's going to be... It's gonna be shit. 823 00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:31,520 I know. Cut the tension with a knife. 824 00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:37,080 The thing is, is that Divarni and I have tried so much. 825 00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:39,640 It is now becoming a toxic relationship 826 00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:43,600 because a lot of trust on both ends has been broken. 827 00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:46,000 I've done nothing but listen to Divarni. 828 00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:50,120 So I need to tell him where I'm at and how I'm feeling. 829 00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:51,640 Come on, let's do this shit. 830 00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:56,400 I mean, I would love some blanket, if that's all right with you. 831 00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:57,760 Do you want to come inside? 832 00:35:57,800 --> 00:35:59,800 No. I'd like to just love some blanket. 833 00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:03,520 I was trying to wrap it around, but it's all right. 834 00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:04,920 Ta. This is not gonna be enough. 835 00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:07,800 Oh. 836 00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:12,640 How are you, Julia-Ruth? I'm going to be honest. 837 00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:16,320 There's been a lot of, like, wrong that I've done, 838 00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:18,600 but I feel like there's been a lot of inconsistencies 839 00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:20,720 in your behaviour that hasn't matched. 840 00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:22,600 What do you mean inconsistencies? 841 00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:25,960 In terms of, like, holding my hand and being attentive 842 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:27,280 and being present in that 843 00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:29,600 because I felt like you were so supportive behind closed doors, 844 00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:31,440 like everything I could have asked for. 845 00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:33,080 You were very affectionate, 846 00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:35,720 like, you're very attentive and present. 847 00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:38,520 I feel like what I struggle with is when... 848 00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:40,480 Maybe it's because the group has said 849 00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:42,480 that you might look like a melt or anything, 850 00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:44,120 so maybe that's why you were feeling different 851 00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,440 to how you were behind closed doors. 852 00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:50,280 OK, so straight off the bat, that is not an apology. 853 00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:53,400 Not at all. So Julia-Ruth is leading this conversation 854 00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:56,320 by making a small acknowledgement of where she might have gone wrong, 855 00:36:56,360 --> 00:37:00,080 but then very quickly turning it into an attack on his behaviour. 856 00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,120 I think, for me, the moment where... 857 00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:08,520 ..like, I shut down was when you packed your bags 858 00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:10,600 and, like, didn't explain what was going on 859 00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:11,880 and walked out the doors, 860 00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:13,520 that for me was... 861 00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:16,040 I don't want to have a repeat of my last relationship, 862 00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:18,440 which was very hot and cold and hot and cold. 863 00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:21,800 It's communication, things like this. 864 00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:24,600 The clicking of the teeth, the... of the lips. 865 00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:26,640 The rolling of the eyes, the like... 866 00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:28,600 Exactly. 867 00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:30,520 It's just a thought. Exactly. That's what I do when I'm thinking. 868 00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:32,960 Your thought is a little bit disrespectful 869 00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:35,160 when I'm trying to get my... Disrespectful? ..point past. 870 00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:37,120 Interesting. Yeah. OK. Continue. 871 00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:39,800 This is just me finally getting things off my chest. 872 00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:42,000 Cos I haven't been able to have a say in this at all. 873 00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:44,200 It's always about you. And this is the problem. 874 00:37:44,240 --> 00:37:45,560 Actually, it's always about you. 875 00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:47,160 You have actually spoken about yourself 876 00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:48,760 at every opportunity that you have. Nah... 877 00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,240 And I haven't had a voice and I would like to have a voice. 878 00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:54,200 This weekend was here to be here for you and our relationship to make it work. 879 00:37:54,240 --> 00:37:56,520 For me? Nah, nah... Otherwise, I could have walked out of here 880 00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:58,880 because you wanted to so badly come to this retreat. 881 00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:00,760 And I didn't want to come to this retreat. Oh, is it? 882 00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:02,120 I could have walked out at the party. 883 00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:04,200 It's funny that you lied. You're a liar, bro. 884 00:38:04,240 --> 00:38:06,280 You knew how much anxiety I had coming to this. No, no... 885 00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:08,680 I said, "Divarni, I'm ready to go. I don't want to do this..." 886 00:38:08,720 --> 00:38:10,200 Do you know why I came to this? And you sat... 887 00:38:10,240 --> 00:38:12,160 Do you even know why I even put steak? 888 00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:13,480 I was giving you the chance 889 00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:15,480 to actually be accountable for your actions, 890 00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:17,680 for everything that everyone's called you out for. 891 00:38:17,720 --> 00:38:19,680 Divarni, you could have walked away. And you're saying... 892 00:38:19,720 --> 00:38:21,440 You're trying to put this on me? You're a grown man. You know. 893 00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,320 You make your own decisions. You wanted to write leave. 894 00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:24,440 Don't talk to me like I'm a fucking kid. 895 00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:25,920 Don't do that. No, no, no... 896 00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:27,680 It's funny that you're flipping the narrative. 897 00:38:27,720 --> 00:38:29,320 Be an adult and let me speak. 898 00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:31,960 You don't let me finish a sentence to get it across. You just jump in. 899 00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:34,720 No, mate, you're also saying that I'm acting different. 900 00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:36,080 Anyway, it's on camera. 901 00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:38,600 I've tried my best. We're divorced. Fab. 902 00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:40,280 Again. Same shit. 903 00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:42,520 I'm over it. I'm done. 904 00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:44,160 Same fucking shit. 905 00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,360 It's cute. 906 00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:04,440 Where else would you have wanted us, Maeve? 907 00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:07,320 Divarni's next to Julia-Ruth. Oh, are they? 908 00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:11,360 Steven? No, I've got one. Thank you. 909 00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,360 I would like a red wine, actually. 910 00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:15,120 Cheers, babe. 911 00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:17,680 I was gonna put this on your leg. Oh, thank you. 912 00:39:17,720 --> 00:39:19,240 Have you been up to much? 913 00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:20,320 Um... 914 00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:23,160 I'm now divorced. 915 00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:25,200 Oh. Love that for you. 916 00:39:25,240 --> 00:39:26,760 Oh, no. What's happening? 917 00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,440 Yes. Yay! 918 00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:31,680 Oh, that's cute. Yeah. I like that. 919 00:39:31,720 --> 00:39:32,840 Mm. 920 00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,280 I mean, I feel like there's lots of niceties going on 921 00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:37,080 around the table at the moment. 922 00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:38,440 Mm. 923 00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:41,560 How are you? 924 00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:46,520 Yeah. I mean, it's never going to be easy-breezy, is it? 925 00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:47,920 For sure. 926 00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:53,680 Zero connection, zero eye contact. 927 00:39:53,720 --> 00:39:55,960 And really Julia-Ruth is taking control, 928 00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:59,120 not just by walking away but by also saying it's over. 929 00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:02,120 Exactly. And, "I've called the marriage off." Yes. 930 00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:05,040 Yeah. You know, they're both equally triggered, 931 00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:07,720 and they're not going to get to any kind of resolution 932 00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:09,800 when they're both feeling so emotional. 933 00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:14,800 No, I feel like there's some on your side. 934 00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:19,680 Are yous ready? 935 00:40:19,720 --> 00:40:21,360 CHEERING AND APPLAUSE 936 00:40:28,720 --> 00:40:30,920 I'm not the best at speaking, right? 937 00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:32,320 But you know what it is. 938 00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:37,880 Honestly, I can't tell yous how much I all actually like love yous. 939 00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:39,560 But from the bottom of my heart, 940 00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:42,240 I just want to say thank you for all your support. 941 00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:44,800 The past week's been absolutely shit, 942 00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:48,440 but, like, I wouldn't be here if you guys weren't here. 943 00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:50,440 And that's all I'm saying, because I hate fucking talking, 944 00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:52,120 but anyway... CHEERING AND APPLAUSE 945 00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:53,560 To Maeve. To me. 946 00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:57,960 It's been so difficult for Maeve of late, 947 00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:00,880 but she has given her all to this experiment. 948 00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:04,920 She has showed up time after time, even when Joe wasn't there. 949 00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:07,800 And I think it's shown such incredible strength 950 00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:11,000 and a real uprising in her confidence. 951 00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:12,600 She should be proud of herself. 952 00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:15,840 Right... 953 00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:17,240 How are you two doing? 954 00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:19,600 In what context? 955 00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:22,120 Teacher lady. I know what you're looking for, Bec. 956 00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:26,000 What is the context? No, I'll just ask. 957 00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:28,360 You want to know if we've had sex. Have you had sex? 958 00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:29,920 No, we haven't had sex yet, 959 00:41:29,960 --> 00:41:32,680 but I feel like we are definitely more... 960 00:41:32,720 --> 00:41:34,960 Yeah. It's different. ..kissy. Yeah. Yeah. 961 00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:36,920 Yeah, it's definitely not a friendship 962 00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:39,200 because I'm, like, arsed about her in a different way. Like... 963 00:41:39,240 --> 00:41:42,480 Same! ..behind closed doors, it's like kissing and more like... 964 00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:43,840 Do you know what I mean? 965 00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,520 It's a bit more tactile and stuff in bed. 966 00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:49,960 Like, I would never do that with any of my friends. 967 00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:53,080 So I think one thing that we were quite worried about 968 00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:56,440 was that they were stuck in that friend zone, 969 00:41:56,480 --> 00:41:59,120 and what we're seeing here from this conversation 970 00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:02,880 is that they have progressed from that. 971 00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:04,600 TAPPING ON GLASS 972 00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:09,760 Oh. 973 00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:12,680 Um... 974 00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:18,480 I just wanted to say a little speech. 975 00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:26,440 Um, in all honesty, 976 00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:28,440 this has been fun, this has been iconic. 977 00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:31,160 This has been amazing. Made some great friendships. 978 00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:33,760 Made an amazing ex-husband. 979 00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:39,560 Divarni and I are gone now, so, like, good luck. 980 00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:43,000 May the odds be ever in your favour. Keep it real. 981 00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:45,360 OK. Um... It is a game. 982 00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:47,040 Have fun. 983 00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:48,800 Um... 984 00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:51,320 Cheers to the chaos. Hear, hear. 985 00:42:56,720 --> 00:42:58,240 I think this is the heart of 986 00:42:58,280 --> 00:43:00,680 why the group is so frustrated with Julia-Ruth. 987 00:43:00,720 --> 00:43:02,760 You know, they're doing the work, they're showing up. 988 00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:05,600 They're doing the hard yards for their relationships. 989 00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:08,120 And here she is describing the experiment 990 00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:10,440 as though it's just a frivolous game. Yeah. 991 00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:14,600 It's not a game, Julia-Ruth. It's people's lives. 992 00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:17,000 You know you've hurt Divarni, Julia. 993 00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:21,200 You could have really damaged my relationship with my husband. 994 00:43:21,240 --> 00:43:23,080 And you don't have the balls to look... 995 00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:24,920 Look at me in the eye. Look at me in the eye. 996 00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:27,560 I am. No-one's attacking your man or going for your man. 997 00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:29,880 You've made this about you. This isn't about me. 998 00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:31,840 Oh, I made it about me, yeah? I made it about me? 999 00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:33,000 Why are you so worried, babe? 1000 00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:34,760 Because I haven't had a conversation with this man. 1001 00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:37,120 I'm not worried. So, then why are you addressing me right now? 1002 00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:38,440 Because my speech wasn't for you. 1003 00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:40,640 Are you ready? No. Are you ready? 1004 00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:42,320 Why are you...? I wasn't talking to you. There we go. 1005 00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,120 There we go. She won't let me finish. 1006 00:43:44,160 --> 00:43:46,280 Relax. Your man's there and holding your hand. 1007 00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:48,480 Why are you worried? Stop talking for a second. 1008 00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,640 You stop talking for a second. That wasn't about you. 1009 00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:52,600 There she goes again. You're starting. 1010 00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:55,560 "Oh, here we are. Here we are, here we are." 1011 00:43:55,600 --> 00:43:58,560 He deserves the best. And you haven't given him that. 1012 00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:01,520 You've been sat here. You've been sat here all night. 1013 00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:03,200 You've been here all night disrespecting him. 1014 00:44:03,240 --> 00:44:05,120 Nobody said your name, actually. Don't rise to it. 1015 00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:06,760 Don't rise to it. No, I'm not rising to that. 1016 00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:09,720 Not rising to that. Go, girl. To that. Yeah. Go, girl. 1017 00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:12,280 Nelly! Do you want to let me finish? 1018 00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:13,800 I know. It's embarrassing. 1019 00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:16,320 I think what's quite disappointing to see, though, 1020 00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:19,800 is that Steven is really quiet when Nelly is desperately 1021 00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:22,680 kind of needing some kind of reassurance from him. 1022 00:44:22,720 --> 00:44:24,960 This is his opportunity to talk up. 1023 00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:26,240 This is his opportunity to say, 1024 00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:28,400 "Actually, I'm really happy with Nelly. 1025 00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:31,760 "And although you're a beautiful lady, this is my woman right here." 1026 00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:35,760 And then she would realise she is the 10-10 that he keeps saying she is. 1027 00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:37,000 Yes. Yes. 1028 00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:40,040 Nobody said anything about names. No-one's erasing you. 1029 00:44:40,080 --> 00:44:41,680 Nelly! Nelly! ..anybody in here. 1030 00:44:41,720 --> 00:44:44,400 On a serious note, you're not going to get what you want out of this. 1031 00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:46,240 Yeah, I'm not. It's not worth... 1032 00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:47,440 It's not worth backing him for it. 1033 00:44:47,480 --> 00:44:50,480 She's never going to take accountability cos she's embarrassing. Yeah. 1034 00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:52,160 I wasn't even attacking you, but fab. 1035 00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:53,320 OK, OK. 1036 00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:56,160 You just let your insecurities show cos I wasn't actually attacking you. 1037 00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:57,320 I didn't say... 1038 00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:59,040 There we go, there we go, there we go. 1039 00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:00,880 That's a nasty girl. I didn't say your name. 1040 00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:02,040 I didn't say your name. 1041 00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:03,240 Julia-Ruth. Julia-Ruth. 1042 00:45:03,280 --> 00:45:04,920 We don't need to attack people's characters. 1043 00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:07,880 We don't need to say that. We don't. Stop. 1044 00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:14,200 It's embarrassing. She's embarrassing. 1045 00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:18,000 Divarni, is there anything you want to say? 1046 00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:19,760 Is there anything you actually want to say? 1047 00:45:19,800 --> 00:45:22,880 Because obviously, I know you're... You've been a big part of this. 1048 00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:25,080 You're also going to be leaving. 1049 00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:28,400 Obviously, I've expressed my feelings to every single person 1050 00:45:28,440 --> 00:45:29,840 as to why I came here, 1051 00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:33,400 and it's unfortunate it's come to an end, cos I didn't find it. 1052 00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:35,840 I'm leaving here with my integrity. Yes, you are. 1053 00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:37,880 Yes, you are. Yes, you are. 100%. 1054 00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:40,200 Cheers to that. Cheers to you. Cheers to you, Divarni. 1055 00:45:40,240 --> 00:45:42,840 And obviously I do appreciate it, and I love all you guys. 1056 00:45:42,880 --> 00:45:44,760 I've done wrong in the relationship, 1057 00:45:44,800 --> 00:45:48,080 but at the same time, I've got to step back for myself. 1058 00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:50,320 I don't think you've done much wrong, mate, if I'm honest. 1059 00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:52,240 I don't think you've done much wrong. 1060 00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:53,480 Nothing wrong. 1061 00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:55,440 Let him speak. This is his time. 1062 00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:56,920 Did you say something? 1063 00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,160 Was there...? Was there something you want to say? 1064 00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:04,520 Don't be weird. Don't-don't look at her like that. 1065 00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:06,160 Don't be all weird like that. 1066 00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:07,200 Don't do that. 1067 00:46:07,240 --> 00:46:10,440 Don't... Don't be... Don't start snarling and be weird. 1068 00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,040 Wow. 1069 00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:18,040 It's really an attempt to dominate and to show power. 1070 00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:22,040 It's so undermining. Yes. And also, I think she's trying to agitate. 1071 00:46:22,080 --> 00:46:24,600 Yes. Yes. She does a very good job at agitating, 1072 00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:26,160 and then what that does 1073 00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:28,640 is that throws the person off from the topic. 1074 00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:30,560 The thing is that in this situation, right, 1075 00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:32,440 everyone wants me to take accountability. 1076 00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:34,040 Everyone wants me to answer questions, 1077 00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:36,560 but no-one actually lets me say more than five words. 1078 00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:39,200 Seriously though. OK... No, no, but fucking seriously, 1079 00:46:39,240 --> 00:46:40,800 I can't explain the situation or anything 1080 00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:42,240 without you guys jumping down my throat. 1081 00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:44,000 So what is the fucking point? Because you guys want... 1082 00:46:44,040 --> 00:46:46,600 You can now. Go on. What are you accountable for? Shush. 1083 00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:48,240 Fucking hell. You want your own answer... 1084 00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:50,120 Don't speak to him like that! ..you want your own reply to it. 1085 00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:54,880 She is very effectively avoiding what she doesn't want to confront. 1086 00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:56,880 You want your own answer and you want your own reply. 1087 00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:59,080 And I've sat there and I've taken the punches in the face, 1088 00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:00,960 which I deserve, but seriously though, 1089 00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:02,800 when I want to talk and say something, 1090 00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:04,400 no-one actually lets me say anything. 1091 00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:06,360 Go on. We're listening now. Speak to Divarni then. 1092 00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:07,880 Just stop waffling. You're just waffling. 1093 00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:09,480 I... I ta... 1094 00:47:09,520 --> 00:47:11,480 Yeah, but you're going on about something. 1095 00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:13,480 He's asking you. This is your opportunity to say. 1096 00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:15,880 That was your opportunity to say things. 1097 00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:18,360 At the end of the day, it was rude to say shush to Bailey. 1098 00:47:18,400 --> 00:47:20,720 Like, he is just telling you to continue to speak. 1099 00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:22,640 Go on. Carry on. What are you accountable for? 1100 00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:24,760 I don't care, I don't give a fuck 1101 00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:27,000 if you guys want to agree or disagree. 1102 00:47:27,040 --> 00:47:29,240 Do you take accountability for manipulating him? 1103 00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:31,040 That's what... That's what I would like to know. 1104 00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:33,080 You would like a certain answer. 1105 00:47:33,120 --> 00:47:35,160 I would like to explain how I've gotten to where I am 1106 00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:36,520 and take accountability. 1107 00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:39,120 Can we just stick to the question? It's just, it's kind of a yes or no. 1108 00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:40,960 Do you take accountability for manipulating him? 1109 00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:44,160 There's more shit around it. You don't understand me at all. 1110 00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:47,280 I would like to... No, you don't need to divulge why you manipulated him. 1111 00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:48,440 I'm just wondering 1112 00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:51,160 if you do take responsibility for manipulating him? 1113 00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:52,760 Can we just... Oi, hang on a minute. 1114 00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:56,040 Can we just appreciate the fact that this is a little bit tacky? 1115 00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:58,640 I want to know the punchline. I'm waiting for the punch line. 1116 00:47:58,680 --> 00:47:59,720 You want your punch line? 1117 00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:01,640 No, no... You don't want my punch line. Wait. 1118 00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:03,120 Let them speak. 1119 00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:04,360 Let who speak? 1120 00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:05,440 Everyone. 1121 00:48:06,560 --> 00:48:09,480 I'm fucking trying to protect her. I'm trying to protect her. 1122 00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:11,960 She's not being bombarded cos no-one said fucking anything. 1123 00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:14,600 It is being bombarded cos I can't get anything out. 1124 00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:16,600 No-one has asked a question... Shut up, Ash! 1125 00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:18,840 The whole guy thing is not working any more. 1126 00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:21,480 Fair enough. Same, babe. Honestly. Same. Enough. 1127 00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:23,800 Grace. Say your bit, babe. You know what? 1128 00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:25,120 I see you. I've heard you. 1129 00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:27,400 This is not working any more, this good guy act. 1130 00:48:27,440 --> 00:48:28,880 But can I ask...? Julia-Ruth, 1131 00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:31,000 I think you've hurt the boy sitting next to you. 1132 00:48:31,040 --> 00:48:34,240 Who fucking cares? Pull your pussy up because you're boring as fuck. 1133 00:48:34,280 --> 00:48:35,360 Seriously. So now... 1134 00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:37,800 You're definitely not boring. Now that you have... 1135 00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:39,800 You're definitely not boring, but you're a bitch. You're boring. 1136 00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:42,760 You're definitely not boring, but You've got something wrong with you. 1137 00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:44,440 You're an evil person. 1138 00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:46,440 Listen, listen. Listen, listen! 1139 00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:49,280 People she hasn't directly affected, shut the fuck up. 1140 00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:51,720 Mate, hold on a minute. You can't keep shouting at everyone else 1141 00:48:51,760 --> 00:48:53,400 because she won't speak the truth, right? 1142 00:48:53,440 --> 00:48:55,680 Calm, mate. If I'm getting frustrated with people, Ash, 1143 00:48:55,720 --> 00:48:57,120 I'm allowed that. Come on. 1144 00:48:57,160 --> 00:49:00,440 People she directly affected, pipe the fuck up, by all means. 1145 00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:03,040 People she hasn't directly affected, shut the fuck up. 1146 00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:04,520 It's as simple as that. 1147 00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:08,080 Great call by Nelly. 1148 00:49:08,120 --> 00:49:10,440 I mean, great call to hold him accountable. 1149 00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:14,600 Yeah. Why was he not triggered when Nelly was under attack? 1150 00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:16,160 All right. Done. Done. 1151 00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:17,960 You know... You know what you're worth 1152 00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:20,960 and that's not... Yeah. You know your value. 1153 00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:24,320 Nelly's attacking me because, like, there's cracks in the relationship, 1154 00:49:24,360 --> 00:49:26,080 and she's so fucking needy. 1155 00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:28,920 Honestly, like, give Steven a fucking breath. 1156 00:49:28,960 --> 00:49:30,280 No. 1157 00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:32,120 No more. No more, babe. 1158 00:49:32,160 --> 00:49:34,640 Babe, I'm gone. So what are you worried about? 1159 00:49:36,800 --> 00:49:39,600 Fuck it, I don't care. I have no husband. 1160 00:49:39,640 --> 00:49:42,240 I'm packing my bags and I'll see you later. 1161 00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,480 I got my closure. You know what I mean? 1162 00:49:44,520 --> 00:49:47,400 There are definitely a lot of feelings that I have for Julia-Ruth, 1163 00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:49,600 but, yeah, that speech that she did was a piece of shit, man. 1164 00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:51,840 I'm not gonna lie. I don't know what that was for. 1165 00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:54,560 She always wants to look like the boss bitch or the queen, 1166 00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:57,560 but really and truly, today was a shitshow on her side. 1167 00:49:57,600 --> 00:50:00,800 And, um, I'm not happy that everyone got to see that, 1168 00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:03,960 but this is a true reflection of who she is. 1169 00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:06,400 Aside from that, the journey has come to an end. 1170 00:50:06,440 --> 00:50:08,480 The marriage is done. Finished. 1171 00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:13,880 Next time... 1172 00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:15,520 It's beyond my expectations. 1173 00:50:15,560 --> 00:50:18,440 ..as the couples return to face the experts... 1174 00:50:18,480 --> 00:50:19,560 I'm getting chills. 1175 00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:21,040 THEY LAUGH 1176 00:50:21,080 --> 00:50:22,280 It's so good. 1177 00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:24,600 ..some reap the rewards from their time away. 1178 00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:26,560 We're just getting stronger and stronger 1179 00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:28,560 and my feelings are massive. 1180 00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:31,920 But for others... 1181 00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:34,880 I've gone week in, week out trying to make things work. 1182 00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:36,200 I've wasted my time. 1183 00:50:36,240 --> 00:50:37,800 ..turmoil from the retreat... 1184 00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:40,160 But what can I do now? The relationship is in the gutter. 1185 00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:41,600 You didn't give it a second. 1186 00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:42,840 ..continues to build. 1187 00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:44,000 Like, are you on the verge of leaving? 1188 00:50:44,040 --> 00:50:45,840 If I'm not giving you what you need, I need to go. 1189 00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:47,040 And Grace... 1190 00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:49,120 This has been the hardest week. 1191 00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:51,720 ..is left questioning her marriage to Ashley. 1192 00:50:51,760 --> 00:50:54,320 We were bringing out the very worst in each other, 1193 00:50:54,360 --> 00:50:56,760 so I've chosen to...